So, I get the question often, asking “Why did you choose to be a Homemaker?” Most times, I answer that question not really thinking about it. But that’s not right, I need to answer this question, not for you but for myself. So, I took to pen and paper to write out my thoughts on this subject.
I can tell you that being home raising my children was an answered prayer. I found myself always frustrated with the growing costs of childcare, the school system and overall, how society was treating and labelling my kids. So, I started praying and asking God to put me in a position to be home with them. I also prayed and asked God to give me the heart to be the mother that they need.
Me being present for every moment in my kids’ life was and is so important to me. I simply didn’t want anyone else outside of Ashon and me to raise them. To have the world put their impression on them before we could display our values and character was something I didn’t want. Being present physically, spiritually, and emotionally is our top priority.
My children’s safety
Simply because my children deserve to feel safe and live in a safe environment. I will never put them in a position to feel that they can’t fully be themselves. Growing up, I faced so much judgement and always felt criticized for just existing and being human, even from family members. I want to protect my children from that as much as possible.
For years my heart has leaned towards hospitality in my home. I couldn’t quite grasp what that would look like exactly. In the beginning I thought that my home had to have a level of perfection and seen as “magazine” worthy. But soon Yahweh (God) began to lay it on my heart what it really meant to be present in my home as a homemaker. Didn’t matter how it looked, but the love that it exudes says it all. The bible says in Philippians 2:3-4 “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” Growing up, I hated doing household chores but now I see how much those times taught me to care for something other than myself.
When making this decision, I had no clue at the time how important a decision like this could impact my life and the life of my children. I just knew that God would provide and that somehow some way we would make it through this season. Because of this decision, I lost 1 thing. ONLY ONE. And that was a paycheck. I didn’t know how we would even manage living but when the decision was made and when I finally gave in to this call, God had already provided a way!
So, this is my “why”. What’s yours? I’d love to hear from you in the Comments.