Developing a Servant’s Heart in the Home

As a stay-at-home mom and homemaker, I often find myself deep in a ton of tasks—cooking, cleaning, organizing, and managing the needs of my family. Amidst ALL the hustle and bustle, I’ve realized that the true essence of my role is not simply about completing chores but about serving my family with a heart that reflects Christ’s love and humility. Developing a servant’s heart in the home has become a journey of faith, grace, and intentionality. 

Let me make this clear... I STRUGGLE! 

Knowing this in my head and feeling this in my heart are two completely different things. It's taking some time for me to get to this place of "developing a servant's heart..." I didn't just wake up like this. It was God, allowing me to go through every trial and error, The Holy Spirit correcting me each and every time. And it doesn't feel good. 

Embracing the Role of a Servant

Jesus said, “For even the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many” (Mark 10:45). This scripture has profoundly impacted my perspective on homemaking. It reminds me that in serving my family, I am following in the footsteps of Jesus, who exemplified the ultimate act of service.

Embracing the role of a servant begins with a shift in mindset. Instead of viewing household chores as mundane tasks, I see them as opportunities to bless my family. When I prepare a meal, I am nourishing their bodies. When I clean, I am creating a peaceful and welcoming environment. Each act of service, no matter how small, is a reflection of God’s love in our home.

Serving with Joy and Gratitude

It’s easy to become weary and overwhelmed by the never-ending demands of homemaking. I still go through days when I feel like my serving is in vain. I often ask the Lord to help me in my weaknesses. This is why I am write out daily gratitude and affirmations for myself.  However, getting to a place where I understand that cultivating a servant’s heart means serving with joy and gratitude. Even when the tasks are challenging, I am reminded in Philippians 2:14-15 encourages me to “do all things without grumbling or disputing, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world.”

I’ve found that starting my day with a prayer of thanksgiving sets a positive tone. I ask God to fill my heart with joy and to help me see the blessings in my responsibilities. When I choose to focus on the good—my children’s laughter, the warmth of our home, the privilege of being present for my family—I find that joy naturally flows from a heart of gratitude.

Learning from Biblical Examples

We all know that The Bible is filled with stories of individuals who exemplified a servant’s heart. One of my personal favorites is the example of Martha, the sister of Mary and Lazarus. While Martha is often remembered for her busyness, her desire to serve Jesus and her household is commendable. In Luke 10:38-42, we see Martha diligently preparing for Jesus’ visit, while her sister Mary sits at His feet.

Jesus gently reminds Martha that while her service is valuable, spending time with Him is even more important. This story teaches me the balance between serving and sitting at Jesus’ feet. It’s a reminder that my service should flow from a deep relationship with Christ, rooted in His love and guidance.

Practical Steps to Cultivate a Servant’s Heart

1. Prayer and Reflection: Begin each day with a prayer, asking God to give you a heart of service. Reflect on scriptures that inspire and encourage a servant’s attitude.
2. Prioritize Relationships: Focus on the people you are serving rather than the tasks themselves. Spend quality time with your family, listen to their needs, and show them love through your actions.
3. Practice Gratitude: Keep a gratitude journal to remind yourself of the blessings in your role. Write down the moments when you see God’s hand at work in your home.
4. Serve with Intention: Approach each task with a sense of purpose. Whether it’s preparing a meal or tidying up, do it with love and dedication, knowing that you are serving God by serving your family.
5. Rest in God’s Presence: Take time to rest and recharge in God’s presence. Like Mary, sit at Jesus’ feet and find peace and strength in Him. This will renew your spirit and enable you to serve with a joyful heart.

Developing a servant’s heart in the home is a continuous journey. It requires daily surrender, it requires prayer, and the willingness to see our roles through the lens of God’s love. As I strive to serve my family with a heart like Christ’s, I am reminded that my efforts, however small, are significant in God’s eyes. Each act of service is an opportunity to shine His light and love in my home, creating a legacy of faith for my children and a sanctuary of peace for my family.

And always remember that you, my love, were made for this!